Life's frustrating ups and downs

My OAP has been going through a really bad time over the last 6 months or so - just at a time when his life should be getting simpler. His ex has decided that she wants a lions share of his possessions just because she accidentally fell pregnant with his kid 38 years ago! He looked after her financially, sent her on training courses in the work she said she wanted to do, paid for her and her son to live in Germany while training, paid for her to live in Cape Town when she wanted more training in something different, paid for her to live in a different part of Johannesburg when that was what she wanted, made room for her in his flat and farm when she said the school felt he should take more of an active role in his son's life. He desperately wanted to take a part but it was too late for them and his son despises him and makes no bones about his feelings. His son and his ex seem to think that it was me who broke up a "perfect" relationship 16 years ago but their idea of perfect is extremely warped when I know they didn't share a room, never mind a bed, and he had other girlfriends before me! Anyway she now has decided that she wants lots and lots of his money and she found a really good law firm who saw her successfully through the quagmire (his lawyer was crap) so he now has 90 days to find her money and the money to pay her and his lawyers!! Otherwise the court will attach his (and I suppose my) possessions! He thought he could sell his flat in Sandton but discovered her lawyers have blocked the sale as she is living there and can do so till she dies (now I understand why some folk turn to murder!), so he is trying to sell his farm but who in their right mind wants to buy a farm in Northwest Province at this turbulent time in SA's history? He has a tenant living on the farm who has reneged on his rent for the last year!!!! This tenant has now given notice that he intends to leave the farm at the end of July - slap bang in the middle of our overseas holiday - leaving the property vacant and vulnerable to squatters etc. So it looks like my days on Utopia may be coming to an end and we will have to move onto the farm when we get back at the end of September. Another chapter in my Book of Life! Maybe it will be fun (hmm I wonder - the ex lives in a cottage on the property at weekends!!) and maybe we will be able to sell it or maybe we can just set light to it and claim the insurance money!! Watch this space.